One can go down the memory lane and while at it, identify two or more friends who seemed perfect only to disappear during hard times.
It isn't that hard to sniff out these friends really. You can always come up with three names in no time. Generally, these friends were like your shadow when everything else seemed so smooth and on track. Change the tide and where are they now?
This is not to say that it is a piece of cake being a good friend. It has never been easy. You will often have trouble stomaching the site of friends who are going through rough patches while there is very little if any you can do.
It is at that time that some people choose to simply lay their hands off. They will avoid you at that darkest hour for lack of any ideas about what to do. Still, it is not the best thing that one can do whenever you were in need. You should be with them at least.
Remember that you are not going into this as the sole problem solver. You should not have the mindset that you are the solution. Rather, be there emotionally and physically and be the earpiece that is available to connect.
There are times when all you can do is all that matters anyway. There is nothing that feels as good as a friend who is around there encouraging you and comforting you when lights are flashing before you. You get strength to take on adversaries.
To some people, it is almost their talent, figuring out which exact words to say to a friend who is nursing wounds. Their words are so soothing and will go a great deal in lifting you from that dark hole and placing you almost at a point you never thought you will reach.
Truth be said, there are times when you will even lack the words to say to a friend who is in grief. That is why you should be concerned with just being there. Stay on the radar and these small gestures add up to much.
It isn't that hard to sniff out these friends really. You can always come up with three names in no time. Generally, these friends were like your shadow when everything else seemed so smooth and on track. Change the tide and where are they now?
This is not to say that it is a piece of cake being a good friend. It has never been easy. You will often have trouble stomaching the site of friends who are going through rough patches while there is very little if any you can do.
It is at that time that some people choose to simply lay their hands off. They will avoid you at that darkest hour for lack of any ideas about what to do. Still, it is not the best thing that one can do whenever you were in need. You should be with them at least.
Remember that you are not going into this as the sole problem solver. You should not have the mindset that you are the solution. Rather, be there emotionally and physically and be the earpiece that is available to connect.
There are times when all you can do is all that matters anyway. There is nothing that feels as good as a friend who is around there encouraging you and comforting you when lights are flashing before you. You get strength to take on adversaries.
To some people, it is almost their talent, figuring out which exact words to say to a friend who is nursing wounds. Their words are so soothing and will go a great deal in lifting you from that dark hole and placing you almost at a point you never thought you will reach.
Truth be said, there are times when you will even lack the words to say to a friend who is in grief. That is why you should be concerned with just being there. Stay on the radar and these small gestures add up to much.
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